Facing Tough Decisions or Know Someone Who Is? Read This.

Whew, what a week! I feel like so much has happened, I don’t know where to start. So first, life update:

  • D officially graduated college – whoohoo! We spent the past weekend with both families in town which was a handful to say the least. BUT it was one of the best weekends all year. There was so much love and celebration that I honestly couldn’t get enough! Vlog about our weekend > HERE <
  • I got a new job! So I am not entirely sure if I can “officially” announce this via social media (even though I’ve told like a million and five people), so I’ll hold off for a few more days, but let’s just say I have SO MUCH CONTENT COMING because I will be traveling like crazy for the next year!
  • I have started and finished my only summer course (it was a 20 hour, week-long class… it’s even exhausting to type) on health communication, but I have fallen in a deep and unexpected love, which brings me to the topic of this post.

We covered SO MUCH in my class I could make an entire website based on my text books because it was honestly THAT GOOD (if you want information on these books, comment below snd I’ll be happy to share)! I have always loved learning, but my nerd level rose about 25% after this week. Although this is not an academic site by any means – just me rambling about random things, I do love my field and have been trying to come up with ways to apply various theories / methods I’ve learned to average day-to-day hurdles that anyone can benefit from. I think knowledge is useless if you don’t share what you learn with others, so here I am, sharing with you all!

Because I’ve enjoyed writing on this topic so much, it will most likely not be my last, but this first method I wanted to cover was Motivational Interviewing. MI originated in psychotherapy, but has since moved into many realms, including daily and casual life circumstances. This was personally notable this weekend when my sister was making a really tough decision. I found it hard for me to motivate her instead of just telling her what I though was best. Maybe not everyone reading this is in a communication master’s program, but I am sure most people can relate to helping friends or family talk through tough siutations.

The main points of this method I love most are that 1. it is client centered 2. it is non-confrontational and 3. the person asking the questions never give their personal preference on the decision the client (family or friend) should make. Instead, they guide and get people thinking outside the box. It is your job, through this method, to help others clarify how they feel and prioritize their goals in addition to supporting them. But, this is not just about helping others. You are able to apply this to your life as well. I love self checking and this is a good tool to slove your own problems from an alternative approach.

Maybe you’re thinking, “okay?” So, lets put it to practice. Here are examples my professor gave me which does just that:

Stage 1: Agenda Setting

What goal would you most like to achieve?

From what I understand, you’re goal is XYZ, can you tell me more about it? 

Stage 2: Gauge Importance

On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is this to you?

Stage 3: Pros and Cons of Current Behavior

What do you like about your current behavior? What do you dislike?

What do you think will happen if you don’t change?

Stage 4: Roadblocks

If 10 is perfection of the goal you set, where are you now? Where would you like to be on this scale, realistically?

How confident are you that you can reach this goal? What are roadblocks that might make it hard?

Stage 5: Discrepancy

Small steps yield results. How confident are you that you can move just 1 or 2 steps closer to your goal? What behaviors or conditions might get you a little closer?

What do you think will happen if you (targeted behavior)?

Step 6: Collaborative Problem Solving

Are there ways that I or anyone else can help and support you?

Step 7: Assessing Confidence

What do you like best about the options you have identified?

Step 8: Follow Up

Keep in touch, I’d love to hear about your progress! I support you in this and am here to listen and help. 

That’s it! Next time you find yourself helping someone out, think back to the questions above. Did asking these questions make a difference in the other person’s decision? How did using this method of problem solving affect your relationship with that person? If you liked this post or have other motivational tools when working through tribulations, I’d love to hear from you!

Be confidently you,

T

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