Happy Thursday everyone!
Before I jump into apologizing for my absence this past month, I’m not. Instead, I’m just going to say thank you for sticking with me through this journey. It, by no means, has been easy and has come with many challenges, BUT I am back and I am back for good, ya’ll. I am not sure what’s in store for me in the blogging world, but I am looking forward to finding out!
In other news, gratitude has been a main focus of mine this past month. I honestly believe saying a simple “Thank You” on a day-to-day has become so under-used and so under-rated. It’s appropriate in almost any situation and is a much better response than half of the things we say *hint my opening statement*. With that being said, I am keeping this post short and sweet and jumping straight into the 7 times you should say “Thank You” instead.
1. When Running Late.
Being late is my middle name. RIP to me when everyone started using find my friends. Coming from someone who is always on “Taylor Time”, I can tell you it is not only stressful for the person running late, but it is disrespectful to the person or people waiting. It might seem strange to thank someone for dealing with your slip-up’s, but it is such an appropriate response. Most people, aka me, frantically run in the door shouting, “Sorry I’m late!”
The problem is this response still makes the situation about you. Sorry, I’m late. Saying “Thank You” turns the tables and acknowledges the inconvenience the other person made by waiting. Thank you for waiting. When we make a mistake, someone else often makes a sacrifice. Our immediate response is to apologize for our failure, but the better approach is to praise their patience and loyalty.
2. When Receiving Compliments.
Often times, we can mistakenly ruin a compliment by either deflecting it or acting overly humble. People tend to do this to avoid appearing arrogant, which seems logical. But, the problem is that by deflecting a genuine compliment, 1. you don’t actually acknowledge the person who was nice enough to say something and 2. you can’t really own it. When you just say “Thank You,” you allow the compliment to become yours and give your mind permission to build your confidence. Accept them with grace and enjoy the moment!
Example: “I love your top!”
- Instead of: “Oh, this old thing? I’ve had it for years…”
- Try saying: “Thank you. I’m glad you like it!”
Example: “You killed your presentation today!”
- Instead of: “Did I? I felt so nervous up there…”
- Try saying: “Thank you. I’m happy it went well!”
3. When Handing Confrontation.
When someone comes to you with bad news, it can be awkward. I literally hate confrontation solely because I have no idea what to say half of the time. We tend to think spinning things into a positive light can help, but we really just fail to be present in the moment. During tough times, we don’t always need words of encouragement as much as just needing someone there. When you don’t know what to say, try “thank you for sharing that with me. I know this is a hard time and I’m here to support you.”
4. When Receiving Helpful Feedback.
Feedback can actually be helpful, although we rarely see it that way – usually getting defensive instead. It’s a shame too, because we close our minds and hearts to growth. If instead we said, “thank you for holding me accountable” and took the information to improve, imagine how much we’d learn about ourselves!
5. When Receiving Unfair Criticism.
Sometimes criticism isn’t helpful at all. It can even come across as rude or hurtful, but one of the best approaches is to just say thank you and move on. YES, I’ll admit it seems like you’re swallowing your pride, but when you thank someone for criticizing you, it immediately neutralizes the sting of their statement.
If it’s not a big deal to you, then it can’t grow into something bigger. Instead of trying to explain yourself, get defensive or snappy, simply say, “thank you for the feedback. I still have a lot to learn.” Letting go of the idea that you need to win every argument is a sign of maturity.
6. When Receiving Unwanted Advice.
I feel like the best example of this is at the gym. Has anyone ever had a “workout professional” give you advice on techniques when you clearly didn’t ask them? Me too. I’m sure they are just tying to be helpful, but it comes off annoying. Even worse, it’s easy to snap back with a sassy or defensive ‘tude. What’s a better response? You guessed it, say “Thank You!” Thank people for raising your self-awareness, even if it was unsolicited.
7. When In Doubt.
When in doubt, just say “Thank You”… there is no downside! Are you honestly worried about showing too much gratitude to the people in your life? Should I send a thank you card? Should I tip? When in doubt, the answer is yes and the response is, “Thank You!”
That’s it! I hope this post sparks a grateful heart going into the weekend. Speaking of, what are your plans?? It’s officially spring break (yes, I still get a spring break in grad school…) and I have a jam packed weekend / week with no work or school, praise! One of my favorite people, aka my hype man / unofficial manager, is coming into town… my little sister! Well, she’s not so little anymore, but in my mind she will always be eight, logical right? Anyway, I’d love to hear your plans and if you are interested in ours, keep up with us on insta stories!
Be confidently and THANKFULLY you,