I recently graduated from college with my undergrad (BA) this past December. With graduation there is so much excitement, so much to look forward to, so much NEW! It seems everywhere I look, there are new opportunities for growth and improvement and it truly is the most exciting, yet most terrifying point in my life so far.
In a blink of an eye, everything I became accustom to over the past four years, were memories. It is a very strange process to say the least. Looking back, I feel as a young woman, you can never really grasp everything college has to offer until it’s gone, leaving you no choice but to enjoy ever last second you have left. Overall, graduation throws you out into the world and says, it’s time to be yourself. Whole-heartedly, confidently, you.
I was fortunate to give this message to over 100 young women right before I left. Surprisingly, I got a lot of great feedback, so I am laying it out there once again. My three tips for college women to be confidently, themselves.
Any college graduate can agree, those four year FLY! In the midst of exams, it seems like a life time – that graduation, your goals, your career is a distant fantasy you’ll never reach. It’s so easy to get caught up with homework, late night studying, football games, campus jobs, even drama.
For me, I was a busy bee. I was always on to the next task, the next assignment, the next day. Before I knew it, the semester had flown right by me. In the short times I was free, I usually turned down any plans because I was exhausted, warn out, or just needed a break. I was wrong.
Here is my first piece of advice to you: say YES! To any and everything! Road trip with the girls? YES! Joining that club on campus? YES! Submitting that resume? YES! That extra cookie? YES! Say yes to new experiences, new friendships, new opportunities and new memories. Put yourself out there and be vulnerable! Very few places outside of college have such a variety of both responsibilities and leniency in one. A place to learn about yourself, learn about others, learn about what you like and don’t like – it’s a place of growth and a place to make mistakes and learn from them. Time is one of the few things in life you can never get back – so stop wasting it! Live!
Before all else, love
Love. I don’t mean fall in love with the cute boys in your English class (there will be some!) I’m talking about self-love and loving others through your words and actions. I’m talking about being happy with yourself and your life from the inside out that radiates to any and everyone around you. Love should be the basis of all relationships, all conversations, all actions and decisions. Love your friends, your family, the people that invest in you and the people that don’t. Love your acquaintances, love your enemies and most importantly, love God. Love God in order to love yourself, and love yourself in order to love others.
Now I know I sound like a preacher over here, but I promise you this. You may think you are only talking about someone, one time. You were only mean, one time. You only made an unethical or questionable decision, one time. You only lied or cheated, one time. But slowly throughout your life you come to realize, every action you take or word you speak slowly start to define the person you become. #RealTalk.
This verse is one of my favorites and one of the absolute hardest to live out, but I accept the challenge!
“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” Luke 6:27-28
Find out who you are
One of my biggest points I live by in order to live confidently, is to know who you are and never apologize for it. College is all about finding out who that person is – we know this. The real question is how?
- Try new things and challenge yourself
- Let go of perfection
- Make time for yourself and the people that make you happy
- Find out your goals in life
- Who or what is important to you and what are your priorities?
- Find your true morals and values, then never settle for less
- Become proactive instead of reactive and take responsibility for your actions
- Evaluate accomplishments and mistakes, what got you there?
- Never stop learning
- Always leave room for growth and be kind to yourself
That it! My three tips for college women in order to live confidently. I already mentioned that I got good feedback from people I know personally, but what do you think? What advice would you give college women in order to be confident in themselves? If you are a college woman, was this helpful? I’d love to hear from you!
Be whole-heartedly, confidently, you,
Photography: Ashton Taylor